BEHAVIOURAL (PERSONALITY) PROFILING WITH YOUNG PEOPLE


Using an 'age appropriate' questionnaire and reporting system, young people (10 years old+), can start to make sense of the 'people puzzle'.


They get insight about themselves and their behaviours, and huge understanding about others. They start their life long journey into communication, relationships and appreciating 'difference'.


Combining the profile with Life Coaching is a great way to:


  • boost self-esteem
  • emphasise STRENGTHS
  • improve relationships
  • consider blind-spots
  • think about career choices
  • look at aspects of personal behaviour and change
  • goal set


The profile is a wonderful starting point for a conversation. It is a visual tool and has supporting information for parents and teachers.




"YOU'RE BRAVER THAN YOU BELIEVE, AND STRONGER THAN YOU SEEM, AND SMARTER THAN YOU THINK.” A.A. MILNE

…Constantly anxious and worried?
…Lacking in confidence & resilience?
…Disliking themselves?
…Socially withdrawn?
…Seemingly unhappy/angry/frustrated?
…Fearful of exams and assessments?
…Unsure about what they want to do 16+
…Apathetic & unmotivated?
…Not studying? Disengaged with academics?
…A college leaver ‘lost’ in the adult world?

...facing a performance challenge e.g. driving test, interview, public speaking?

WOULD YOUR CHILD/TEENAGER BENEFIT FROM COACHING? ARE THEY..........

PARENTAL CONSENT & CONFIDENTIALITY

YOUTH LIFE COACHING

​A “Youth” is a young person who is under 18 (17 & under). 


According to UNCRC (United Nations Convention on the Rights of a Child), every child has a right to access confidential advice and information services. 

In my practice, it is preferable to have parental consent in all cases, and to remind parents/caregivers that children have a defined legal right to confidentiality.


To this end I ask parents and clients to sign a document which a) giving consent to coaching and b) makes the confidentiality boundaries clear.


At the start of every coaching session, I re-iterate the confidentiality contract with young people.


I have an up-to-date DBS Certificate and understand the protocol around child protection.

I have been a teacher and Director of Sport in schools for the last 24 years. I have worked predominantly in secondary schools, in both state/private sectors, mixed and girls only.

I left teaching to focus on my passion for ‘making a difference’ at the most tangible level – face to face with young people, dealing with their own topical and personal issues. Young people face numerous challenges and helping them find their place in the world, understand ‘how-they-tick’ and giving them tools and strategies to manage obstacles and aspire to their dreams is one of the most important thing I could imagine doing.

To this end, I present to large groups, classroom groups and one to one. I specialise in areas of ‘state management’ (how to think, feel, act - at your best). I work with topics such as: goal setting, confidence, self-esteem, bounce-back/resilience, behavioural profiling, anxiety, values and identity. 


I aim to bring the 'soft' skills alive. These soft skills are in demand in the workplace. When learned and understood at an early age, students build a repertoire of mental coping strategies in a world that is challenging, hectic and sometimes very stressful.


My practical and theoretical approach means that skills can be embedded, students can actually enact change and substitute resourceful for unresourceful behaviour. State management gets to the basics – how to understand and manage yourself (self awareness, self management & relationship management). It is important to teach behaviour and not just ‘thinking’. It is critical students are given simple ‘tools’ that they understand and can use.

 Students can use these tools every day as part of leading a happy, healthy, positive and purposeful life. At the ‘tough end’ students can use state management tools to respond to pressure events like sport, public speaking, driving tests, examinations, personal crisis.

PARENT & TEENAGE PACKAGES - TOPIC EXAMPLES


I coach through the mediums of coaching, open questioning, NLP, Clean Language, Mindful approaches, Clean Language & Metaphor, and changing physiology.

Here are some themes (covered over a 6 session package) a parent might find helpful if they are having conflict with their teenager:


PARENT


  • You as a Person: Behavioural Profiling – understand your style, motivations, fears. Understand others (in particular, your child),
  • Understand Adolescents – neurology, aggression, physical changes, aggression, hypersensitivity, need for connection, behaviour, lack of coping skills, emotional literacy (rule out medical possibilities)
  • You as a parent – you as a person, you as a parent/style, your behaviour, your body language, your feelings, perspective, your understanding, coping tools available, how issue affects others, your resources
  • Triggers, Solutions, strategies, boundaries, consistency, follow through. Asking open questions. Managing frustration.



CHILD/YOUNG PERSON/STUDENT


  • Understand yourself and others: Behavioural Profiling (child version) – relationships, spotting and reducing conflict, motivation, de-motivation - good for career choices, sport, love!
  • Your Strengths and using these ("who am I?").
  • Values and what is important to me. Life values. Work/Career values (16+)
  • Understanding puberty and how I am changing. Identifying things that are different. Managing 'transition' to an adult world.
  • Managing problems. Thoughts/feelings/behaviours. Managing thoughts, choosing thoughts. Slowing the process between stimulus and response. Techniques and hacks.
  • Goal setting – what I want in the future.

 “WHEN I WAS GROWING UP I ALWAYS WANTED TO BE SOMEONE. NOW I REALIZE I SHOULD HAVE BEEN MORE SPECIFIC.” LILY TOMLIN